kristine anthis, PhD

Hello. I help people who are dating and getting in their own way, couples who long to talk and listen to each other differently, and individuals who are ready to heal — especially their attachment wounds. I also consult and train a range of clients regarding their parts, from women-owned local businesses, CEOs and their teams, to venture capitalists. For example, in the case of individuals, I've helped clients notice and begin dialoguing with parts of themselves who get in their own way, such as self-sabotaging on dates by being critical, defensive, and/or emotionally unavailable. I've then helped clients listen to this self-sabotaging part's unmet needs -- such as its need for acceptance, connection, security, etc. What we often learn from parts is that the ways they go about trying to meet their needs unfortunately often creates the very thing they fear. In the case of a part who self-sabotages on dates, the result may be feeling less accepted after being critical, more disconnected after being defensive, and less secure after demonstrating they are emotionally unavailable. Once clients are regularly dialoguing with the parts of themselves, their parts become more open to another way of having their needs met, such as the client's Self energy (our inner resource of clarity, confidence, ease, etc.) leading the way, with very different results, such as showing up with confidence, courage, and curiosity about the other person - and greater dating success. I guide clients through these corrective dialoguing experiences in session, and create an action plan for them to maintain such outside of session, so that they go from getting into their own way to advancing toward their goals. I am IFS Institute trained in Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy Level 1, Level 2, & Level 3, as well as Intimacy from the Inside Out (IFIO) therapy (the couples version of IFS), in Nonviolent Communication (NVC), I have completed postdoctoral coursework at the C. G. Jung Institute in NYC, and I have served as an IFS Level 1 Program Assistant to help other therapists learn IFS. I'm an able-bodied cisgender white person, I am working to be more conscious of my privilege, and to use it to hopefully help make the world better for everyone. My ancestors came to the United States from Europe and the Middle East. I am a mother, a feminist, and a lesbian. I am working to better understand the marginalization of others, and I hope to be considered an ally. In addition to work, I'm fond of being with family and friends, foraging for black licorice, and devouring detective novels. After our consultation, I'll identify how I can help you meet your needs and goals.